Emerson said, “Nature always wears the colours of the spirit” – I like to surround myself with souls who do the same.
Nature has a way of reminding us of our shortcomings – our impatience, our mulling over trivial matters, or things we can not change. Yet, Nature does not boast, it is through observation of its perfection – and destruction, that we become aware of our own faults and the pettiness of our actions. Most importantly, Nature reminds us of our own mortality.
“Nature – crushed by ignorance, always triumphs, as she returns from a crack in the dirt and blooms into beauty.”The daughter of eden
Nature – like life, is full of uncertainty, “The unfolding experience of life, exploring, advancing or retreating, requires the open mind, a willingness to learn and wonder rather than pursuing a set road to some imagined goal.” The Taoist Harmony of Opposites.
It is an unyielding force – flowing through us and around us. Nature continues with, or without us.
The Stoics main ethical ideal was to live in harmony with Nature. Why? because resistance to that which you can not change, is futile. Living in harmony with Nature is surrendering to the uncertainty of life. Yet, no matter what Nature brings our way we always have a way out – and that is through the perception of the situation.
“You can not change what you can not change – but you can change your mind.”the daughter of eden
We are all guilty of spending time worrying about situations beyond our control. We worry about getting older, about meeting the right person, getting the job of our dreams, our parents approval – we even worry about the way other people perceive us. As Thoreau said, “Public opinion is a weak tyrant.” Walden.
Regardless of how much control we think we have over our lives, there is a force far greater that will inevitably determine the outcome – the best way to deal with uncomfortable or unforeseen circumstances, is to be mentally prepared for them without expectation of their arrival.
How many times have things you’ve been worried about, turned out to be alright in the end? How many times has life unexpectedly worked out? Even the trials you may have faced in the past, turned out to lead you on a much happier path.
Life is kind to those who are prepared for it. Surrender to that which is beyond your control, let Nature run its course, and have faith that everything will work out as it should.
11 Ways to Surrender To Uncertainty
1. Be aware of what’s plaguing you
What keeps you awake at night? Address your concerns, don’t quiet them. Face them, head on, dissect them, see them for what they are.
2. Imagine the worst possible scenario
The Stoics called this negative visualisation. Mentally prepare yourself for the worst possible outcome. Don’t shy away from this, it is important to acknowledge both sides of the coin, not just the outcome going in your favour. Nothing will ever be as bad as you’ve imagined, but if things do turn sour, look for the lesson and you’ll find the blessing.
3. For the good of all, or not at all
Surrendering to Nature means acknowledging the free-will of everyone involved. Just as you can’t make anyone fall in love with you, you can’t force something to happen that will affect another. Everything we do, all of our actions, whether we realise or not, have a ripple effect that permeates through our lives, touching many other lives as well. While we may have our heart set on something, it isn’t always the best outcome for everyone. Be humble with your choices.
4. The obstacle is the way
You are not cursed or unworthy just because a situation didn’t pan out the way you’d hoped. If the answer is no, you can always try again. No doesn’t mean never, sometimes it means not right now. Marcus Aurelius said, “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” How badly do you want it?
5. Work with the Moon
Yes, if you are a regular here you will know that I am a little obsessed with the Moon – and so should you be! If you haven’t already, take a look at my posts on Working with the New Moon, and Working with the Full Moon where you can get your free printable worksheets. The best form of surrender for me, is when I do my New Moon and Full Moon practices.
6. You are exactly where you are meant to be
My dear friend Hawa Ridhwani has reminded me of this a lot lately. It can be so difficult to not get despondent when our lives feel stagnant or in limbo, but if there was somewhere else we were meant to be right now, mountains would move to ensure it.
“No doesn’t mean never, sometimes it means not right now.”the daughter of eden
7. It is never too late
There is always enough time, life is long if you know how to use it. Seneca said, “They lose the day in expectation of the night, and the night in fear of the dawn.” Spend your time wisely, spend it on what matters, and you will not waste a second.
8. What is yours will not pass you by
I am a firm believer in this. That if something is meant for you, nothing, and no one can prevent it from finding its way to you – no matter how many obstacles may slow it down, or how many detours it may take, what is yours will not pass you by.
9. Progress, not perfection
I need this reminder, every day. I am a perfectionist, to a T. I can not bear anything leaving my hands until it has first been analysed for imperfections with a fine-toothed comb. Even then, I still find a flaw. BUT, I am conscious of this now more than ever, as each day I remind myself that progress trumps perfection.
9. Memento Mori
Remember that you too will die. What bigger reminder to surrender to Nature, to life, to uncertainty, do you need, than the reminder of your own mortality? Don’t live as if death is far in the future, live as if you will die tomorrow, and each new day will be a bonus.
10. Memento Vivere
Embrace the moment, find beauty in every day. You can visit my YouTube channel where I share my mindful moments with you.
11. If you want it, let it go.
Remember, we can only see so far, we don’t have the whole picture, only pieces of the puzzle. Let go, and let life unfold as it is meant to.
I hope you found this list helpful in alleviating some of your worries today, and to help you surrender to uncertainty with a smile on your face.
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