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Finding Balance in Life – Let the Pendulum Rest

May has been a heavy month, full-on emotionally and physically. While April for me was about projecting energy and attention outward, May has been a wholly reflective month, turning my attention inward.

Life is inevitably about balance – achieving harmony of opposites, as the Taoists would put it. However, one thing invariably suffers at the gain of another – balance, in all areas of life, is key to attaining lasting, sustainable happiness.

We can certainly have too much of one thing and not enough of another. This imbalance manifests in every part of our world – inner, and outer. Our financial stability comes perhaps at the cost of our mental and emotional well-being. Our social life suffers due to our inability to juggle our lifestyle, and we suffer most of all from placing ourselves last on our priority list (did we even put ourselves on there?).

As the fifth Hermetic principle of The Kybalion, the Principle of Rhythm states, everything has its opposite. What you give away in one hand, will fruit in the other. Similarly, whatever we hold onto with clenched fists, will result in lack. There is always an action and a reaction, a rising and falling.

“Everything flows, out and in; everything has its tides; all things rise and fall; the pendulum-swing manifests in everything; the measure of the swing to the right is the measure of the swing to the left; rhythm compensates.”

the principle of rhythm, The Kybalion

Balance is about compromise. It’s about knowing when your pendulum has swayed too much one way, at the suffering of the other. The goal is to maintain consistency in our lives, keep the pendulum steady, resting in the middle – that is the point of neutrality, the place we simply allow ourselves to exist, and remember who we are.

Areas of life to practice balance

First and foremost, in your own well-being.

An overactive pendulum is like an overactive mind. Too much swing in life is going to upset our equilibrium. Practicing the art of stillness, incorporating mindful living practices into our daily lives, forces us to slow down – and when we slow down, so does the pendulum.

Sleep

If you aren’t sleeping as much as you know you should be, ask yourself what area of your life is taking priority over your sleep. What are you over-doing that is causing your sleep to take a backseat?

Diet

Yes, you’ve been told this your whole life, ‘eat a varied, balanced diet’ ‘you are what you eat’. This is something I have been struggling with for the majority of my life, achieving consistency in my diet.

Alone time, solitude

I mention this quite often here because it is crucial to my happiness, but taking a sojourn, a hiatus from society, is very liberating. In-fact, I encourage it. Re-charge, take a break, and spend the time getting to know you better – turn your energy inwards.

Finances

Does your pendulum wildly swing between hoarding money, and splurging? Or is it relatively neutral? reflecting an equal, and healthy ingoing and outgoing.

Willingness to change – rigidness and flexibility

Where in life can we be more flexible? What areas do we need to work on compromise?

Relationships

Relationships – platonic and romantic, are often the biggest challenges when it comes to achieving balance. Not only are we trying to find balance in our own lives, but we are also trying to find balance in our dynamic with another – whether they are balanced themselves, or not. Knowing which relationships are taking too much from us, vs the ones that lift us up and make us feel more like ourselves, is a big step in making ourselves a priority, and achieving balance and harmony in this area of our lives.

Career

Is the workaholic in you over-compensating for an internal imbalance? Most often, when I am overdoing it, it’s because I’m distracting myself from a feeling, or avoiding an area of my life I don’t have the energy to deal with. Of course, if I slowed down, I would have the energy to deal with it – but I don’t always want to.

“Everything is Dual; everything has poles; everything has its pair of opposites; like and unlike are the same; opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree; extremes meet; all truths are but half-truths; all paradoxes may be reconciled.”

The principle of polarity, The Kybalion

I hope this short list gave you some idea of where to look for imbalances in your life. Let me know in the comments if there was one in particular you needed to read most, or any other areas you thought of.

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Until next time,


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4 Comments

  • Perseo
    June 1, 2021 at 9:19 pm

    I’ve been waiting for your new post and it’s finally here! 🤩😍
    Interesting as always!✌
    To find the balance we must also try the imbalance!
    I wonder why it is always easier to find the imbalance than the balance?!?!

    Thanks Victoria, for your new post!

    Perseo

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    • Victoria
      June 6, 2021 at 4:15 pm

      Thank you Perseo! I am glad you enjoyed this post and found it helpful!

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  • Katie
    June 7, 2021 at 1:58 pm

    Thank you for this post❤️ I definitely find it helpful to think about these things and to check how balanced my life is generally. Sleep is definitely one I’ve been working on, whereas food is one I’m pretty happy with, I think. It’s definitely good to check in and reassess 🤩

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    • Victoria
      June 22, 2021 at 8:38 pm

      Thank you for joining me on this journey, Katie! It can be hard to navigate life sometimes, I’m glad this post reminded you to check in with yourself and see what needs rebalancing. 🌻

      Reply

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